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Self esteem and other things that improve your quality of life

Last Updated on July 22, 2017 Leave a Comment

TRUE STORY: One day, I was at the market when a young man complimented me on my dress. I said, “Thank you, it doesn’t match my shoes though…” He looked me square in the eye and said. “No one is looking at your shoes, you’re beautiful.” I got uncomfortable and asked him how old he was. To which he responded “old enough to see how hard it is for you to take a compliment.”

Ouch.

At 40+ years old, still being called out on shit like this is humbling…

But I love to share stuff like this. Because truthfully, owning our confidence and our sense of self, is a something many of us struggle with. Even if we know we’ve come such a long way, we can slip back into old patterns. For me, not accepting compliments is an alarm. When I slip back into deflecting compliments, I try to address it right away because it’s an indicator of negative self-talk. My negative self-talk is much more subtle these days but if I am not conscious, my insecurity will lurk around waiting for the opportunity to bash.

“Eewww. Don’t let him compliment you. He just wants something. He’s lying. He obviously feels bad for you. You look weak…” Even when I have achieved many of the things I have set out to accomplish, I still find thoughts like this floating around in my mind. And if I am not active in my positive dialogue, I can slip into old behaviors that incite what? More negative self-talk and behavior.

If you have EVER had to battle an AWFUL inner critic AND you need a good cry… Take the time to read this article in The New York Times by America Ferrera. She eloquently explains journey to overcome the negative self-talk that tried to destroy her self-esteem.

I want to make an offer to anyone who’s dealt with self-esteem issues, for any of the MANY reasons we do.

If you’re READY to start or continue your journey to self-esteem with a little help, I’m ready to be your tour guide.

If you are REALLY feeling this and you want to work with me personally email me, or find me on Facebook (put the word COACHING in the first line) and let’s talk about how I can help you find your way to loving yourself enough to live the life of your dreams.

I believe words are powerful. Check out these posts for more of my thoughts on the subject:
The Power of Words
Words To Live By
SELF LOVE, AFFIRMED…

I believe we are given opportunities to grow DAILY. I am a WIP (work in present) and YOU are beautiful!

DIY Beauty…

Last Updated on March 22, 2017 Leave a Comment

For years, I was able to make a living as an actress but to tell the truth, I never used to like taking pictures. I always felt awkward because I never felt attractive enough. It’s crazy to think that I spent years being insecure but it’s also very REAL and very COMMON.

At 46, I can finally say I like myself. I like the way I look. I like who I am. So what changed?

Over the years I’ve learned to focus on the things I like about myself. I’ve learned to set goals (and create affirmations around those goals) to appreciate where I am and motivate myself to move forward.

A big part of that has come from just getting comfortable with who I am as a woman and as a sensual being. This comfort has little to do with size or shape and everything to do with mindset.

This brings me to the title of this post. Do It Yourself beauty. If you are like me, you have been your worse critic and need to re-learn how to like yourself. Take care of yourself. Take pictures. Learn to light, pose, or dress your best and do it for YOU. You can share the pictures or not. THAT is entirely up to you but whatever your style, gender, orientation, race, size… you DESERVE to feel beautiful. You ARE beautiful. You already are all the things you’ve longed to be. Stop WAITING to come out. Just be. Just be all that you are and you will be beautiful. The coolest thing happens, when you allow YOURSELF to be beautiful, you bring it out in others. I am so grateful for my female followers. The women losing weight or finishing school or leaving hurtful situations, these are my beautiful heroes.

If you like this, I wrote a post about visual mindfulness that you should read as well. If you are REALLY feeling this and you want to work with me personally email me, or find me on Facebook (put the word COACHING in the first line) and let’s talk about how I can help you find your way to loving yourself enough to live the life of your dreams.

As always peace and blessings.

~angel~

Words to LIVE by

Last Updated on August 14, 2019 1 Comment

The other day, a woman gave me a wonderful compliment about wearing short hair. Along with the compliment, she went on to bash herself, pointing out how hideous she thought she would be without her long hair. I was grateful for the compliment but also a bit heartbroken to hear her use that sort of negative self-talk.

There is little that can cure the damage of a wicked tongue. Speak words of beauty, honor, love and joy over yourself and others!!! Take hold of the words you use to describe yourself. You are a divine being! You are a beauty, created from love and stardust. How can you be anything BUT magnificent? For more of my thoughts on The Power of Words read this BLOG POST

Here are a few extra quotes I found on Instagram on the subject:

Via @yogainspiration 👈😊 Life is an echo. What you send out, comes back. What you sow, you reap. What you give, you get. What you see in others, exists in you. Remember, life is an echo. It always gets back to you. So give goodness. – Zig Ziglar #energy #vibrations #frequency #lawofattraction #awakespiritual #bepositive #goodvibes

#claimingit #wordstoliveby

If you have told your story in a way that has not elevated your life, I have some good news. You can change that. You can tell your new story and really begin to live it.

Do YOU.

Last Updated on March 22, 2017 3 Comments

There’s a whole lot of posting online about “doing you.” What EXACTLY does it mean to do you? Essentially, “doing you” means being authentic. It means being willing to risk not being accepted by some but choosing to pursue your own happiness. It means learning and growing from the choices we make, not blaming or making excuses for others or ourselves.

I wanted to share about what I have realized about life, love and the art of “Doing YOU.” I am the product of conditioning. I was trained to not be selfish and to put others first. Doing me has come at a price (mostly in the form of internal battles). At 46, I am just realizing that doing me… CAN be selfish… It CAN have a direct connection to someone else’s sadness or disappointment and that CAN be ok. Doing me has meant to do what makes me happy, peaceful, secure, successful (based on my own goals). It has NOT meant me mercilessly trampling on others. The art of doing me has allowed me to make choices and TRUST the consequences.

Doing you requires confidence. In order to DO YOU, you have to love, like and trust yourself. Here are some practical tips on learning to DO YOU.

When it comes to speaking… here is some simple advice from Disney. Especially when it comes to self-talk, recognize that it is not ok to put yourself down. Also, keep in mind that DOING YOU means learning to accept that others are going to DO THEM. If you can’t say something nice, don’t say nothing at all. Avoid lies, avoid arguing to prove a point… sometimes silence is truly golden.

Since you’ve conditioned yourself to stop negative language, train yourself to say nice things. “I am worthy. I am beautiful. I am created in God’s image. I deserve good. I accept love and joy. I am love. I am a joy!”

Try new things. Even if it means you are alone, in thought or action, go try something new. Read a new type of book, try on a completely new style of clothing, listen to a different kind of music. We are so conditioned that we sometimes become out of touch with what we like, have grown out of, or would like to explore.

Meditate. This doesn’t have to be a big deal. Just get quiet enough to recognize your own thought patterns and if and how you want to change them. You can learn to take your meditation practice to achieve some fascinating results, but the most important thing is just to start somewhere.

Forgive, yourself for past choices. Forgive others for your sanity and your ability to focus on achieving your own goals. More on this thought can be found HERE.

When I do me, I want to do it in the spirit of ONE LOVE. As I bless my own path, I consecutively am blessing all around me. So today, I hope you DO YOU and that you do it beautifully!

Here is another article I found helpful:

What It Means to Just Be Yourself and 3 Ways to Do It by Victoria Ayres

Recognizing the beauty in all seasons…

Last Updated on March 22, 2017 Leave a Comment

Just a ridiculously beautiful shot of Fall…

Isn’t it amazing how nature lets itself just be beautiful? Why do humans trip when a change of season comes along? It’s only when most of us are in our “winter years” that we can look back and see the beauty of decades past.

I myself have fought to get over that. I need to see myself, BE myself, in the moment and love it. I see you beautiful. Can you see yourself?

If you are struggling with your life changes, please visit THIS or THIS post for some insights into my ideas about the “anti-aging” movement.

#beyou #loveyourself #fall

The Most Powerful Abundance Prayer: Setting intention for the goodness and abundance of all

Last Updated on December 6, 2019 90 Comments

From The Light of God that I am.

From The Love of God that I am.

From The Power of God that I am.

From The Heart of God that I am.

I Decree-

I dwell in the midst of Infinite Abundance.

The Abundance of God is my Infinite Source.

The River of Life never stops flowing and it flows through me with lavish expression.

Good comes to me through unexpected avenues and God works in a myriad of ways to bless me.

I now open my mind to receive my good.

Nothing is too good to be true.

Nothing is too wonderful to have happen.

With God as my Source nothing amazes me.

I am not burdened by thoughts of past or future. One is gone. The other is yet to come.

By the power of my belief, coupled with my purposeful fearless actions and my deep rapport with God, my future is created and my abundance made manifest.

I ask and accept that I am lifted in this and every moment into Higher Truth. My mind is quiet.

From this day forward I give freely and fearlessly into Life and Life gives back to me with a fabulous increase. Blessings come in expected and unexpected ways. God provides for me in wondrous ways for the work that I do.

I AM indeed grateful.

And so it is.

Join me in a POWERFUL ABUNDANCE MASTERCLASS

I first found The Most Powerful Abundance Prayer via a video on Youtube. Upon doing the research I found that nobody could tell who initially created this prayer, but it seems that this abundance prayer was improved by Maureen Moss. Check out her site for amazing insights into abundant living.

Since this has been one of my most popular posts, I decided to make a video as well.

Set your intention for the goodness and abundance of all when you’re reciting the prayer and may you indeed be blessed! For more on the abundance mindset and further applying words of power to change your life, please see my post titled The Game of Life and How to Play It by Florence Scovel Shinn.