At 40+ years old, still being called out on shit like this is humbling…
But I love to share stuff like this. Because truthfully, owning our confidence and our sense of self, is a something many of us struggle with. Even if we know we’ve come such a long way, we can slip back into old patterns. For me, not accepting compliments is an alarm. When I slip back into deflecting compliments, I try to address it right away because it’s an indicator of negative self-talk. My negative self-talk is much more subtle these days but if I am not conscious, my insecurity will lurk around waiting for the opportunity to bash.
“Eewww. Don’t let him compliment you. He just wants something. He’s lying. He obviously feels bad for you. You look weak…” Even when I have achieved many of the things I have set out to accomplish, I still find thoughts like this floating around in my mind. And if I am not active in my positive dialogue, I can slip into old behaviors that incite what? More negative self-talk and behavior.
If you have EVER had to battle an AWFUL inner critic AND you need a good cry… Take the time to read this article in The New York Times by America Ferrera. She eloquently explains journey to overcome the negative self-talk that tried to destroy her self-esteem.
I want to make an offer to anyone who’s dealt with self-esteem issues, for any of the MANY reasons we do.
If you’re READY to start or continue your journey to self-esteem with a little help, I’m ready to be your tour guide.
If you are REALLY feeling this and you want to work with me personally email me, or find me on Facebook (put the word COACHING in the first line) and let’s talk about how I can help you find your way to loving yourself enough to live the life of your dreams.
I believe words are powerful. Check out these posts for more of my thoughts on the subject:
The Power of Words
Words To Live By
SELF LOVE, AFFIRMED…
I believe we are given opportunities to grow DAILY. I am a WIP (work in present) and YOU are beautiful!